What it’s all about

6 Jul

Take out the crass language and Dom/Sub talk and you’ll find that this woman actually gets it. If she focuses on making her husband happy, he spoils her. The more she gives, the more she gets. But she doesn’t do it because she wants more…she does it because she wants to please her man. Why is it so difficult for women to embrace this?


A Year of Growth

19 Jun

Wow, time flies…I can’t believe that a year has gone by already. I wish I could say it’s been a fun journey, or at least one I had planned. The truth however lies somewhere out there in the middle. A year ago tomorrow marks the day that my marriage of 21 years ended.

Certainly NOT something to celebrate, you might think. And you would be right. Except, that with it the pain, shame and self-loathing also ended. It was replaced with discovery and growth and a return to the self-confident woman that my parents raised me to be. Some of you here on the interwebz know the whole story; most do not. Suffice it to say that it has been a year of reflection and planning interspersed with LOTS of hard work, a little doubt, and plenty of tears. I would liken it to the process men go through when they first take the “red pill” and look back on all the mistakes and missed opportunities of the past. Acknowledging the anger; and channeling its power into re-making one’s self into the person you want to be. It is quite a journey…and absolutely necessary. So please indulge me as I run down the significant accomplishments of this past year.

A home of my own to raise my precious ones in – Check

A vehicle that isn’t going to eat me alive in fuel expense – Check

A job to feed us and pay for it all – Check

A safe, happy, healthy mom with a new and improved outlook on life – Check

Doing it all without a dime of assistance from the ex or the government – Priceless!


Mother’s Day

23 May


Entitled princesses…Not here!

15 May

Well, this is my first experience with blogging so it may end up disjointed but WTH here goes…

I have had a crash course the last couple of weeks in Dating 2.0, the manosphere, the pernicious cancer of feminism, the Red Pill, SMP, MMV, and Game. All I can say is this is so much more complicated than it used to be. It is almost depressing.

Earlier this month I celebrated my 45th birthday. Aside from going to work in the 2nd busiest ER in the city, it was a quiet day/night…but I digress. If what I read throughout the manosphere is to be believed, then I am totally out of luck in the hopes of finding a “decent” man to replace my abusive ex (and I mean abusive in every sense of the word). The reason I’m fresh out of luck is because I’m too old, have children, and to quote canecaldo, “soft leather is only desirable for furniture.” I’m still not sure what he meant by that but I’m equally sure I wouldn’t like it and that it is an assumption he shouldn’t make. Regardless, I’m going to continue my search for knowledge on this new and daunting “marketplace” that I find myself launched into once again.

I see a lot out here in the blogosphere about women and their penchant for acting like and wanting to be treated like princesses. I’m not sure where it began, but I do believe it has escalated out of control. I remember watching Shirley Temple in “The Little Princess” when I was a child as well as all of the Disney movies ever released. Yet, I certainly didn’t “grow up” believing that I was a princess or that I should act like or be treated like one. Just the opposite as a matter of fact. Perhaps that is because I worked at Disney through high school and college (when I was apparently at my peak in the SMP and just didn’t know it – lol). I worked in Entertainment at Disney as a performer in parades and shows. Even there, only certain “girls” get to play the part of the princesses and I was never one of those. It was a healthy dose of realism in the world of make believe and pixie dust. And honestly, at Disney, Prince Charming isn’t much of a catch – he prefers his own white knight! I say all that to lead up to this….Somewhere along the line (after my childhood) girls were taught that they should expect preferential treatment, and that they deserved to be treated like princesses whether they acted like them or not. This thinking must be corrected for future generations. Feminism has failed women as a whole and has done a disservice to women by emasculating men, As Chateau Heartiste stated http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/05/14/why-are-feminists-against-the-male-pill/

Feminine women love men for who they are, love to bathe in the energy of male sexuality, and love the innate advantages that men bring to the division of love and labor between the sexes. Feminine women are not feminist women.

Amen to that! It is time to teach our girls how to be feminine. I promise to do my part…